"I agree, some but people really are just ignorant and just don't know any better. It's nice to talk to people who actually want to listen and understand.
As for trolls, I don't mind wasting my time arguing with someone when I'm bored. "
Echo, I agree with you that those who want to understand and are just saying stuff you don't agree with aren't trolls and if you can do it they should be engaged in fair debate and conversation. You make a very good point.
In those situations I think sometimes people get their threat detection alerts and attack but this is not right to do. A troll is not just someone who has an opinion you don't like/think is ignorant/or is unhappy with you. A troll is a person pretending to care about your issue to make you mad. Their goal is to piss you off and instigate your rage.
I like the three questions method for dealing with someone you don't agree with (And this is an excellent filter for determining who is a troll and who is really ignorant but sincerely engaging with you). Basically what you do is ask someone you disagree with a minimum of THREE questions about what they're saying. Sometimes you think you know what their point is but instead ask them anyway. Good examples are:
Are you saying "X, Y, Z?"
Why do you think X?
Is your main issue "A, B, C?"
It sounds like you are saying X.
It helps me a lot and it keeps me from getting angry at what I THINK someone is saying and thus I keep cool (which prevents the troll from getting what they want--IE getting me mad).
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